Rest In Peace My Son – I Love You

 

You were only 33 and we didn’t expect you to leave us so quickly. Cerebral palsy and the physical and mental health challenges that went with it never slowed you down or soured your attitude. Everything was humorous and everyone was your friend.

26 years at home where you kept our house laughing and busy all the time. When I wasn’t working you were my shadow and I loved every minute of it. Then your medical issues really began and we spent the next 2 years in the hospital and a nursing home. I’m sorry I couldn’t get the court to understand what they were doing to you. We were blessed to have the county case manager we had & she found the McGinley House for you. What a  blessing they turned out to be for you. Nobody could have given you a better life these last 5 years.

Your last round of gastro issues looked like another minor issue that would be solved with another corrective surgery.  When you had to go back to the ER a week later we never anticipated that in under an hour we would be presented with tubes & permanent sedation or hospice. 

The week in hospice was the most time we had with you since COVID began. It was difficult but very special in its own way. I can’t write anything more about that cause I’m crying again.

12 weeks since you went home to G-d and we are still amazed by the number of people who have been touched by you. Not a day goes by that we aren’t quoting something you said or reliving something you did to make us laugh. 

I just hope that putting all this on paper will help me come to grips with it. 

Rest In Peace my son – I love you.

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  1. Doug Watt Moderator
    Doug Watt
    @DougWatt

    Condolences and prayers.

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  2. Seawriter Contributor
    Seawriter
    @Seawriter

    Memory Eternal. I know what it is like to lose a spouse. I imagine it would be even worse to lose a child. 

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  3. Nohaaj Coolidge
    Nohaaj
    @Nohaaj

    What beautiful and touching photos and memories.  Thank you for sharing.  God Bless. 

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  4. Foghorn Coolidge
    Foghorn
    @Dave Rogers

    Doug Watt (View Comment):

    Condolences and prayers.

    Please keep the prayers coming because I truly need them still.

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  5. Foghorn Coolidge
    Foghorn
    @Dave Rogers

    Seawriter (View Comment):

    Memory Eternal. I know what it is like to lose a spouse. I imagine it would be even worse to lose a child.

    Laughing one minute over a memory & crying the next because it hurts so. I know I’m not the first & will certainly not be the last but the hurt just doesn’t go away.

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  6. Postmodern Hoplite Coolidge
    Postmodern Hoplite
    @PostmodernHoplite

    Prayers for comfort in your grief. I cannot imagine the pain you are carrying.

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  7. Ole Summers Member
    Ole Summers
    @OleSummers

    Prayers …. and a grateful heart for your sharing this, proof of not just the legacy left with your family but a lesson for all of us

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  8. MDHahn Coolidge
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    @MDHahn

    I am so sorry for your loss. May God grant you peace as you grieve. And my God welcome your son home in his loving arms.

    I can’t possibly imagine your pain.

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  9. Red Herring Coolidge
    Red Herring
    @EHerring

    No words- just prayers.

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  10. Cassandro Coolidge
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    @Flicker

    Red Herring (View Comment):

    No words- just prayers.

    Ditto.  And tears.

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  11. Gossamer Cat Coolidge
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    @GossamerCat

    What a special young man blessed by a loving family. I wish you and your family peace as you grieve for your precious son. 

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  12. Arahant Member
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    @Arahant

    Foghorn:

     

    I love this picture.

    Condolences to you and your family. It looks to me as if you had a great treasure you shared and continue to share with others, making the world a richer place. May God bless you further and many times over.

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  13. Jon Gabriel, Ed. Admin
    Jon Gabriel, Ed.
    @jon

    My heart breaks for you. May his memory be eternal — both of you will be in my prayers.

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  14. Patrick McClure Coolidge
    Patrick McClure
    @Patrickb63

    Thanks for sharing and praying for you and your family.

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  15. Foghorn Coolidge
    Foghorn
    @Dave Rogers

    Postmodern Hoplite (View Comment):

    Prayers for comfort in your grief. I cannot imagine the pain you are carrying.

    Probably not any more so than a lot of others but it is oh so different when it’s personal.

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  16. Foghorn Coolidge
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    @Dave Rogers

    MDHahn (View Comment):

    I am so sorry for your loss. May God grant you peace as you grieve. And my God welcome your son home in his loving arms.

    I can’t possibly imagine your pain.

    There is no doubt in my mind that he now lives with his Lord. He was truly one of heaven’s innocents and was just returned home when his purpose here was completed.

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  17. Postmodern Hoplite Coolidge
    Postmodern Hoplite
    @PostmodernHoplite

    I just re-read this post and thread, and I’m tearing-up. Again. More prayer for comfort.

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  18. Stad Coolidge
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    @Stad

    Prayers.

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  19. E. Kent Golding Member
    E. Kent Golding
    @EKentGolding

    God’s Grace and Peace be with you.

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  20. Illiniguy Member
    Illiniguy
    @Illiniguy

    My deepest condolences.

    My wife’s brother was born with CP and other severe handicaps, and his parents were told that they’d be better off putting him in an institution at birth, because he wouldn’t live too long. To their credit, Mike came home, went to therapy, graduated from high school with his class, goes bowling every weekend and has been a greeter at Home Depot (and Office Depot before that) for going on 20 years. He’s never missed a chance to go to football games, and one of the bravest things I ever saw was when he basically crawled down the 80 or so steps to get to his seat at a game at the Big House (sadly, he’s a Michigan fan). Don’t play rock and roll trivia with him, he’ll take your lunch money. He lives next door in a townhome my wife and I own, he’s in charge of the rent and other bills. He just turned 66.

    Disabilities are so often of the mind and not the body. And too often the disabled minds are of those who turn a blind eye from the potential that exists in everyone. @dave-rogers, all I can tell you is to treasure the good times, for by doing so your son will endure, as he endured up to the very end.

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  21. Foghorn Coolidge
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    @Dave Rogers

    Illiniguy (View Comment):

    My deepest condolences.

    My wife’s brother was born with CP and other severe handicaps, and his parents were told that they’d be better off putting him in an institution at birth, because he wouldn’t live too long. To their credit, Mike came home, went to therapy, graduated from high school with his class, goes bowling every weekend and has been a greeter at Home Depot (and Office Depot before that) for going on 20 years. He’s never missed a chance to go to football games, and one of the bravest things I ever saw was when he basically crawled down the 80 or so steps to get to his seat at a game at the Big House (sadly, he’s a Michigan fan). Don’t play rock and roll trivia with him, he’ll take your lunch money. He lives next door in a townhome my wife and I own, he’s in charge of the rent and other bills. He just turned 66.

    Disabilities are so often of the mind and not the body. And too often the disabled minds are of those who turn a blind eye from the potential that exists in everyone. @ dave-rogers, all I can tell you is to treasure the good times, for by doing so your son will endure, as he endured up to the very end.

    My wife & I had been told the same thing when he was born. I gave the doctor 30 seconds to disappear before I started pounding on him. He went away & our son came home.

    My son academically never got beyond 1st grade but he was so much smarter than my 14 years of education.

    He was a greeter at church before Mass every Sunday & the people loved him for his enthusiasm. His favorite Sundays were those when new born babies were baptized. Once the immersion was done everyone cheered because he started it and they just had to follow along. He taught us all how to experience true joy.

    Cherish Mike because he is one of Heavens special gifts to you, here to help you get through this life.

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  22. Miffed White Male Member
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    @MiffedWhiteMale

    I’m very sorry.

     

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  23. danys Thatcher
    danys
    @danys

    I am so very sorry you lost your dear son. Thank you for this loving post. You and your family are in my prayers.

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  24. Scott R Member
    Scott R
    @ScottR

    Beautiful post, beautiful pictures, peace and comfort to you and your family.

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  25. Columbo Member
    Columbo
    @Columbo

    May he rest forever in God’s Eternal Peace.

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  26. Chuck Thatcher
    Chuck
    @Chuckles

    This hurts me.  So sorry, so very very sorry.

    May the God of all comfort bless and sustain you and the family.

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  27. Bryan G. Stephens Thatcher
    Bryan G. Stephens
    @BryanGStephens

    Prayers. I can’t imagine the pain.

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  28. Western Chauvinist Member
    Western Chauvinist
    @WesternChauvinist

    My oldest turns 26 in two years. I’ve had to imagine the loss you’ve suffered on several occasions due to her and her sister’s medical conditions. But, only imagine.

    Bless you Dad. Parenting is tough and suffering like yours is best endured united to Christ’s. I’m glad you have the Church to lift you up.  Peace be with your spirit. 

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  29. She Member
    She
    @She

    Foghorn: We were blessed to have the county case manager we had & she found the McGinley House for you. What a  blessing they turned out to be for you. Nobody could have given you a better life these last 5 years.

    Your son was also blessed to have the family that he did.  I’m so sorry to read this news, and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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  30. Manny Member
    Manny
    @Manny

    Foghorn, I didn’t quite understand your comment about this in the other post on losing a son. It hurts me to read this, so I can imagine how it hurts you. As I said in the other post, the hurt is great because the love is great. Your son’s life was a blessing and will continue to be a blessing. Have solace that one day you will be reunited. May he Rest In Peace in God’s eternal shining light. May the good Lord give you strength.  

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