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Since I sometimes have a tendency to meddle in other people’s business, and not always artfully, I decided that I might benefit from getting the input of others about an idea of mine. The action I’m contemplating may or may not be helpful, but if it is heretical, I’d just as soon keep quiet.
Some of you may remember that I have a hairdresser whom I’m very fond of. She is a devoted Christian, and we have had many discussions about religion, and we have loved learning from each other. She’s a Conservative, too, and periodically we commiserate about the state of the world. She also saw me through some of my cancer issues, including the shaving of my head. So, I think it’s safe to say we are relatively close.
At the end of last year, Karen was surprised to learn she had to have heart surgery. In a sense, she wasn’t too surprised because heart disease runs in her family. Still, she was impatient about getting past her recovery time so that she could go back to work. A couple of weeks ago she gave me my first post-chemo haircut.
Although Karen is regaining her strength, her progress has been limited due to her reticence about starting physical therapy. I’m assuming that there’s a part of her that resents, is perhaps even angry about, having to give up the time and make the effort to exercise. So she’s put off scheduling her sessions. When my husband (who also goes to her for haircuts) and I have tried to gently encourage her, she nods her head and agrees, but so far, no dice.
I have this idea that I’m considering to give her a nudge to move forward. Let me say first that I have spent the last several years trying to abstain from giving advice; it’s a bad habit I practice and although I’m still not free of it, I’ve done much better. If I have a suggestion that I just can’t resist, I ask permission to offer it, prepared to have the person say no. (My husband and I have agreed to this approach, especially since my suggestions are sometimes ill-timed. It works.)
So here’s what I’m thinking of offering to Karen. First, I will ask if I can offer a suggestion about her physical therapy. Although she’s likely to say yes just to be polite, I’m ready for her to say no. I’ll let the idea go at that point. Second, I will offer my suggestion. It could take a couple of different forms:
How about asking Jesus to go to physical therapy with you? or
How about asking Jesus to go with you to your appointments?
I have no idea how she will react; at first, she might just open her eyes wide and either laugh or be miffed. I will let her determine the direction of a discussion, or her decision to reject the idea. But I so much want to be helpful in a loving, caring way.
If she asks me if G-d exercises with me, I will tell her yes. I suspect he doesn’t do leg stretches, but especially recently, I know he’s there. Would I make the suggestion to a Jewish friend to invite G-d? If the person was religious, I would.
What do you think? Am I nuts? Do you think I should or shouldn’t proceed? Do you have any suggestions for wordsmithing or strategy?Published in