One of your dining companions on a luxury cruise liner in the Baltics uses a word prohibited by Ricochet's Code of Conduct and you immediately and reflexively wince and correct him, making yourself look like the most uptight woman in Christendom. 

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Pseudodionysius
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Pseudodionysius

Uptight is not the word I associate with you Claire.

Chris Deleon
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Chris Deleon

Ricochet has a Code of Conduct for a reason.  Personally, I like it that way.  There's too much trash talk on the Internet at large.

If you set a standard and stick to it, people will live up to the standard.  It's not uptight to expect better of people.  It's actually hopeful and optimistic, tempered with realism about the nature of human beings.  It's... Conservative.

I guess you'd be uptight if you said, "OMG, how could you say that!?!  Bad you!  Shame on you!" and left it only at that.  A better response would be, "I know you are better than that."

Edited on Jun 7, 2011 at 5:33am
Claire Berlinski, Ed.

All true. However, it is more rude to correct someone's manners in public than it is to commit a minor etiquette infraction, so I felt more than a bit embarrassed when I realized what I'd done. 

Kennedy Smith
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Kennedy Smith

 Oh wow.  You edited out loud, not just in your heart?  Yikes.  That, that can't be good.  I'm at a loss for advice.

Kennedy Smith
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Kennedy Smith

 So now you'll have to edit your impulse to edit.

Ajax Telamônios
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Ajax Telamônios

Was there any tongue-clicking and/or finger wagging involved? 

tabula rasa
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tabula rasa

At last, someone defending Western civilization from the barbarians.  We need a few more school-marms, who can tongue-click and wag fingers.

Claire:  it may be uncomfortable, but remember that you standing athwart history and yelling "Stop!"  That's what Ricochet is all about.

Me, on the other hand, probably would have folded like a cheap tent.

jhimmi
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jhimmi

I only publicly humiliate people for grammatical errors.

iWc
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iWc

I have no patience for is/are errors, misused words, and the filler expressions "to be frank", "to be honest", "honestly," etc.

Unless I am clearly in an inferior position, I correct without hesitation or fail. English is a wonderful language, and it needs defending!

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iWc
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iWc

Dumb question: where do I find the famous Code?

Mollie Hemingway, Ed.
iWc: Dumb question: where do I find the famous Code? · Jun 7 at 7:39am

It's at the bottom of every page. But here's a link!

Diane Ellis, Ed.
iWc: Dumb question: where do I find the famous Code? · Jun 7 at 7:39am

Not a dumb question!  You can find a link to it at the bottom of the page.  It's also right here.

Kennedy Smith
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Kennedy Smith
iWc: I correct without hesitation or fail. English is a wonderful language, and it needs defending! · Jun 7 at 7:38am

And the English language appreciates it, if, um, nobody else does.  Do you find this approach goes over well at parties?

Then again, I'm falling into that trap.  Ah well, I hope Claire is hooked up for youtubes of a Gilbert & Sullivan nature.

Diane Ellis, Ed.

Mollie Hemingway, Ed.

iWc: Dumb question: where do I find the famous Code? · Jun 7 at 7:39am

It's at the bottom of every page. But here's a link! · Jun 7 at 8:11am

You know you're a Ricochet editor when you can't wait for people to ask you about the Code of Conduct. :)

Trace Urdan
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Trace Urdan

It's really all about how it's done Claire.  Did you fan yourself and say, "Why Mr. Smith I do declare, may I remind you sir that there are ladies present?"

Mark Wilson
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Mark Wilson

iWc: I have no patience for is/are errors, misused words, and the filler expressions "to be frank", "to be honest", "honestly," etc.

Unless I am clearly in an inferior position, I correct without hesitation or fail. English is a wonderful language, and it needs defending! · Jun 7 at 7:38am

Obviously, it goes without saying.

Might I add that, contrary to popular belief, a proposition is a fine thing to end a sentence with.

I'm just saying.

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iWc
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iWc

Are you making a preposition? I do declare!

Mark Wilson
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Mark Wilson

preposition/proposition: That was a typo on my part, but in light of your witty reply I'm going to let it stand.

Edited on Jun 7, 2011 at 9:01am
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iWc
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iWc

Kennedy Smith

iWc: I correct without hesitation or fail. English is a wonderful language, and it needs defending! · Jun 7 at 7:38am

And the English language appreciates it, if, um, nobody else does.  Do you find this approach goes over well at parties?

With those who know me, there is no problem. I don't correct people out of ego, or to score points. The conversation keeps on flowing.

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iWc
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iWc

Mollie Hemingway, Ed.

iWc: Dumb question: where do I find the famous Code? · Jun 7 at 7:39am

It's at the bottom of every page. But here's a link! · Jun 7 at 8:11am

Thank you kindly. Shockingly easy to read and understand, for a Code of Conduct. Though I have to admit that as soon as I read it, I wondered if I could violate the entire code in a single sentence. I don't think so; probably would take 3.....


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