Hello, fellow readers of Ricochet,
I've been lurking around the edges for some time, reading all the posts and listening to the Ricochet podcasts, but this is my first post!
I'm a conservative living in Brooklyn, NY, and I work in Manhattan. As a result, everyone I know is a liberal (almost. To be fair, I used to be liberal, too. What happened? That's another post, perhaps.) Especially on Facebook. There are some friends that I know I can have a political discussion with on Facebook, and others that I try to avoid getting into it with. Sometimes, it's really just not worth it.
This afternoon one of my Facebook friends, who is an actual friend in real life, posted a link to this:
I really wanted to reply to my friend, "Reagan eliminated loopholes for millionaires while reducing the top marginal rate from 90% to 28%! Obama wants to raise taxes on everyone making more than $250,000."
But I thought better of it. I'm not sure she knows exactly how conservative I am, and she is the one, after all, who told me about the wonderful restaurant she and her husband went to last year, while they were in Italy, the one where the chef sang and there was a giant portrait of Mao on the wall (this was specifically one of the reasons it was a wonderful restaurant). She's not a communist, of course. But let's just say she doesn't exactly appreciate Reagan the way I do.
Last year, when a (now former) friend in real life posted a New Yorker article about the Ground Zero Mosque, I did chime in. He ended up strongly implying that I was a bigot and that I was harmful to the country. Then he defriended me and I haven't spoken to him since, even though we live only eight blocks from each other.
So I didn't write anything in reply to my friend about Reagan. She and her husband were guests at our wedding (there were only 20 in attendance). I don't think she would have the same reaction as my other friend, but I don't want to ruffle her feathers, either.
The former friend who called me a bigot helpfully explained to my wife in an email that there were certain views that made people "undesirable" as friends for him. I find this strange. I didn't find it hard being his friend, looking after his sick cat for 10 days (which involved administering medication twice daily in both liquid and pill form) while he was on a family vacation, just because he had different politics than me. Actually it was pretty great, he had cable and a big flat screen (we have neither) so I watched a lot of Fox in his house while playing with his cat. (And to be fair, he looked after our cats when we were away too. Other than the part about him calling me a bigot an excommunicating us from his life, he was a nice guy...)
How do you cope with friends who don't share political views with you?
With kindest regards,