Does it matter whether someone you date--or eventually marry--shares your political beliefs?
I ask because I was listening to the radio this morning when I heard an ad for a conservatives-only dating website called conservativesonly.com. I don't remember what the ad precisely said, but it was geared at women and went something like this: "Tired of looking for Mr. Right, ladies? Check out conservativesonly.com to finally find someone you're truly compatible with."
Here's what the website says:
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Let's put aside the strange fact that online dating is becoming more and more prevalent (and that people shop for dates online like they do for apartments!)--and consider another question: is actively seeking out a date who more or less shares your political beliefs a strange thing to do? Or is it a wise move? Speaking from your own dating and marriage experiences, what do you think? Is political compatibility a prerequisite to a successful relationship?
Regardless of the answer to that question, there are plenty of examples of hand-holding across the aisle, as the NYTimes puts is. Political consultants James Carville and Mary Matalin come to mind as just one example. Here's what they told CNN's John King a couple of years ago about how they've managed to stay together despite their political beliefs:
King: Our viewers have watched throughout the year. And so you come in here exclusively with us. And they often ask, "How can these two disagree so much and get along?"
And so we asked people to text in a question for James and Mary. And here's what we got from Indiana:
"Love you both. Can you show both houses of Congress your secret for compromise?"
Matalin: Well, we're not a democracy. We're an enlightened MOM-archy. That's what we are. [Cross talk.]
Carville: I don't -- it's nothing if -- as long as one person is not arguing, there's nothing to argue about. I don't have a -- [Laughter.]
Carville: I don't have a position on anything domestically. So I just say yes, and then go on and do it. I mean it. I would say the three ingredients to successful marriage is surrender, capitulation and retreat. If you've got those three things -- [Laughter.]
Matalin: Spoken like a true liberal. What a martyr. Faith, family and good wine. That's how we do it.
Faith, family, and good wine. There are certain things, it seems, that are more fundamental and important than politics.