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Love Makes Parents – The Other Perspective

Lynn Bateman wrote a moving post last week.

Her courage inspired me to share the other side of the story – I am the baby.

No, I am not the child she lovingly carried and gave up for adoption, but I am the baby that someone in similar circumstances carried and gave up for adoption. To all on Ricochet who ever considered or has …

  1. Crow

    Wonderful heartwarming story, Brent, and well told. God bless you and your parents, and anyone who makes the decision to adopt.

  2. 10 cents

    Brent,

    I was wondering if love makes siblings also. I have a friend who lost a brother in 2005. He would not mind adopting a new brother.  My friend is not quite the best but he is not the worst. In fact he is third from the bottom. What should I tell him?

  3. Zafar

    [Love makes parents, not biology.]

    Beautifully said

  4. Antipodius

    A story that is good for the soul. Thanks Brent.

  5. BrentB67
    10 cents: Brent,

    I was wondering if love makes siblings also. I have a friend who lost a brother in 2005. He would not mind adopting a new brother.  My friend is not quite the best but he is not the worst. In fact he is third from the bottom. What should I tell him? · 1 hour ago

    10 Cents, being an only child, I am not sure. Maybe some others here at Ricochet can comment about the biological and adopted siblings.

  6. KayBee

    LIKE LIKE LIKE!

  7. Joan of Ark La Tex
    BrentB67

    10 Cents, being an only child,

    Now I know why you were so bad at playing one party off the other in the contest. 

  8. Cornelius Julius Sebastian

    Outstanding and beautiful, Brent.  This better go Main Feed or I may seriously re-consider my Membership. Well and nobly done, sir.

  9. Joan of Ark La Tex
    Cornelius Julius Sebastian: Outstanding and beautiful, Brent.  This better go Main Feed or I may seriously re-consider my Membership. Well and nobly done, sir. · 6 minutes ago

    If Fred post today, the prospect is bleak. 

  10. 10 cents

    BrentB67,

    Simple is better. I love you little brother.

    BrentB67

    10 cents: Brent,

    I was wondering if love makes siblings also. I have a friend who lost a brother in 2005. He would not mind adopting a new brother.  My friend is not quite the best but he is not the worst. In fact he is third from the bottom. What should I tell him? · 1 hour ago

    10 Cents, being an only child, I am not sure. Maybe some others here at Ricochet can comment about the biological and adopted siblings. · 2 hours ago

  11. Terry Mott

    My wife and I are both adopted, as are my brother and brothers-in-law (we like to say adoption runs in the family).

    I have no knowlege of my biological parents, but feel extremely blessed that I was raised by my adoptive parents.  Better, more loving, parents would be hard to find.

  12. Mendel

    Thanks for sharing. 

    It heartens me to see that so many people on Ricochet feel comfortable enough to share such personal stories with people they have (mostly) never met.

  13. Karen

    Wonderful story. Thank you for sharing. My two sisters were adopted at birth. My parents were told they couldn’t conceive and decided to adopt, then I came along! We moved to a different state when I was an infant, so people didn’t know unless we told them. We didn’t keep it a secret, but it wasn’t obvious, and adoptions weren’t that common. My sisters had a hard time during their teens, and I think some of it had to do with abandonment issues. They’ve never sought out their biological parents to my knowledge. What’s interesting is that though we are from different biological mothers, we have so many of the same mannerisms. Nurture is a big factor. Adoption is a wonderful choice, but I wish it were easier to adopt.

  14. raycon and lindacon

    Thanks.  We do not share your story, but our daughter had two children before she settled down and grew up.  Her first, a girl, still struggles because her mothers husband only marginally accepts her.  The second, a boy, is Sarah’s husband’s child.

    Life is a mess, and God brings sense to it.  We have quit trying to figure this stuff out.  A kid is a kid.  Love them and give them all the love you can.  When it gets messy, rest in God.  He is no stranger to the mess we have made for ourselves.

    You have our love and prayers.  You have made a life where too many surrender to the worst of choices.

    Thanks, Brent.  We give our hearts to you.

  15. Pseudodionysius

    Beautifully done, Brent. And that was a treat to read on this cold Friday night.

  16. Cornelius Julius Sebastian
    Joan of Ark La Tex

    Cornelius Julius Sebastian: Outstanding and beautiful, Brent.  This better go Main Feed or I may seriously re-consider my Membership. Well and nobly done, sir. · 6 minutes ago

    If Fred post today, the prospect is bleak.  · 1 hour ago

    Given the high demand for magic sword threads on the front side of the pay wall, you may well be right, Joan.

  17. Joan of Ark La Tex
    Cornelius Julius Sebastian

    Joan of Ark La Tex

    Cornelius Julius Sebastian: Outstanding and beautiful, Brent.  This better go Main Feed or I may seriously re-consider my Membership. Well and nobly done, sir. · 6 minutes ago

    If Fred post today, the prospect is bleak.  · 1 hour ago

    Given the high demand for magic sword threads on the front side of the pay wall, you may well be right, Joan. · 16 minutes ago

    This is a lovely post, but it can be viewed as telling people what to do. You know, it is offensive to many on this site. Fred posted a thread questioning God’s authority on the same day Clandesteyn posted one of the best threads on religion ever written ” why can’t I find God” . Guess who got bumped on the same day? Need I say more? I hardly go to the mainfeed these days. It’s rather disappointing. 

  18. BrentB67
    Joan of Ark La Tex

    Cornelius Julius Sebastian

    Joan of Ark La Tex

    Cornelius Julius Sebastian: Outstanding and beautiful, Brent.  This better go Main Feed or I may seriously re-consider my Membership. Well and nobly done, sir. · 6 minutes ago

    If Fred post today, the prospect is bleak.  · 1 hour ago

    Given the high demand for magic sword threads on the front side of the pay wall, you may well be right, Joan. · 16 minutes ago

    This is a lovely post, but it can be viewed as telling people what to do. You know, it is offensive to many on this site. Fred posted a thread questioning God’s authority on the same day Clandesteyn posted one of the best threads on religion ever written ” why can’t I find God” . Guess who got bumped on the same day? Need I say more? I hardly go to the mainfeed these days. It’s rather disappointing.  · 1 minute ago

    Edited 0 minutes ago

    Thanks Joan. I wasn’t intending to tell folks what to do. A lot of us here are Pro Life. I was just hoping to share personal experience about how to put it in practice.

  19. Simon Templar

    Hell of a post young man, actually always look forward to reading your comments.  God bless your mom and dad for raising a great American.  Stay in the fight, never give in and never give up. 

  20. Joan of Ark La Tex
    BrentB67

    Joan of Ark La Tex

    This is a lovely post, but it can be viewed as telling people what to do. You know, it is offensive to many on this site. Fred posted a thread questioning God’s authority on the same day Clandesteyn posted one of the best threads on religion ever written ” why can’t I find God” . Guess who got bumped on the same day? Need I say more? I hardly go to the mainfeed these days. It’s rather disappointing.  · 1 minute ago

    Edited 0 minutes ago

    Thanks Joan. I wasn’t intending to tell folks what to do. A lot of us here are Pro Life. I was just hoping to share personal experience about how to put it in practice. · 3 minutes ago

    Sorry Brent, don’t mean to offend you. I have been rather shocked lately by some of the responses on this site. It cheers me up to know that I might be wrong. 

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