Bio
I'm a longtime software designer, with more than a decade of experience managing engineering projects relating to building automation, electric utilities, and an energy technology called demand response. I hold two patents related to energy management, and have filed for three more.
I'm the very proud father of a young woman with Down syndrome, and the owner of a sainted Welsh Pony named Skyz the Limit (both shown in my avatar). Annie and I drive Sky in 4-H shows; I'm a longtime 4-H leader, an instructor in therapeutic (carriage) driving for the handicapped, and recently retired from my role as a regional safety official with the U.S. (Three Day) Eventing Association.
I'm the music director of my church--I'm heavily involved with organ music using a virtual instrument library named Hauptwerk; I'm heavily involved with the Sibelius music notation application, and I'm very active in the user communities of both.
In 1979 I was an innocent, impressionable college student at Penn who fell victim to the enchantments of a stunningly beautiful Campus Crusade staff worker. Thirty-two years and three children later, she is still the woman I adore.



Re: When Depression Takes Over
How close a friend are you?
If you're close enough to walk through the door without knocking, go. Don't comfort, don't console--make sandwiches. Make sure all things that need doing get done. All the phone calls get answered ("I'm sure you understand, Mary's not taking calls right now--but I'll be sure to let her know you called, and I'm sure she'll want to talk to you. Thanks for calling..."), and well-wishers you do not recognize do not cross the threshold.When the press appears, fend them off ("the family is not prepared to make a statement, but thanks the public for their concern.")
Lots of people, in this economy, have reason to be depressed. 99.999% of them soldier on. The ones who choose suicide are committing the biggest single act of narcissism possible: one glorious moment of Look! At! Me! that leaves their family in agony for decades.
Do not waste your time with sympathy for the suicide. Regard the family as victims of a horrendous crime--because they are.